I got my haircut and according to my parents... ( I'm hideous and look like a freak. )

x-posted to some other transcommunities

Hey, I don't know if this was brought up already earlier this week, but the APA released their list for who will be working on the next edition of the DSM (including the GID section), and believe it or don't, really fucked up transphobic and homophobic people were chosen, people like Ken Zucker and Ray Blanchard.
http://questioningtransphobia.wordpress.com/2008/05/05/apa-selects-group-members-to-revise-transgendertranssexual-in-dsm-iv/

I do not know how such ass faces got chosen, but unless you want to see "homosexual type" and autogynophiliac type" transsexuality enshrined in the next DSM (and who knows what for trans men) we need to protest this and try to get it changed.
Please, please, please talk about this in your communities and make people listen. Ken Zucker believes in ex-gay reparative therapy to "cure" gender variant children, for god's sake. These men are not our friends and this is not a good thing.

I hope i'm not coming off as a jerk or as being completely ignorant - like "you really didn't think all this through, did you?" ... please let me know if I am.

I was under the impression that my local clinic, which has prescribed me T and has finally gotten around to giving me my shots, would be able to write me a letter for my upcoming surgery.  I asked recently, just to be sure, and they said no, you'd have to be seeing an actual therapist.  So I have about 6 weeks to find a therapist, talk to him or her, and convince this person to write me a letter...  I kind of wish I knew before scheduling my surgery and making arrangements for my leave of absence at work, but I know it's my own fault for not researching the way I should have and just diving into it all head-first.

My question for you guys ... is there any luck whatsoever of finding a therapist who will see me for a little over a month and be able to write me the letter I need?

Hey guys.

So I've been on T for over a month now, got all that running around sorted out, but now I have a problem. My GP is in Richmond, and I don't drive. It's takes WAY too long to go out there and back.

Does anyone know of a GP in Van [east van would be even better] that is sensitive to transfolk and is taking new patients?

Any help would be really appreciated.

On Sunday June 1st from 12-5pm TransOhio is hosting the 2nd annual TransOhio Unity Picnic in Columbus, Ohio. It is welcomed to anyone who is GLBTQIA people, friends, families, and allies. The evite is posted at this site. They are asking for an RSVP at the website so that they have an idea of how many people will be attending. Hope to see those of you who can make it there.

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Hey all,
So a funny thing happened to me on the way home last night. I was stopped by an acquaintance from high school (which was about 10 years ago btw) I kind of knew who the guy was & I somehow even almost got his name right.
He seemed positively giddy to have run into me. He was a really nice guy & pretty tactful I think (he kept repeating things like "omg! I can't believe how much you've changed!" Which of the folk I've run into so far, is the least gross thing I've heard so far.) Thing is, I was pretty weirded out & unprepared for all this & pretty much made a polite exit, fearing that any more conversation would make this guy feel entitled to ask questions I'm not always prepared to answer.
After leaving, though, I felt like my preemptive bolt left may have taken away an opportunity to make a cool new friend.
I guess I'm still processing all this.
I guess I'd like to know what you guys might/have done in a similar situation...

I haven't seen him since I left for the states last year.

"Darling..."

"Hey honey, do you want to book a private with me?"

"Will you wear no shoes?"

"But of course"

He was the only one to fuck me up. My third private when I started, I went outside with him in a small skirt and tank top and he licked my feet next to the tram stop. Everyone looked at me and I felt ripped off, like this embarrassment was too much to take for the 150 I'd gotten from him, to be a young girl with an older man being fondled in front of all the yuppies downtown. The next day I cried walking home from the shops, half because I had thrush and it didn't seem like it would ever go away, and half because I was ashamed to be taken as a sucker.

I didn't get him again until the month leading up to going. This time I'm comfortable with being bossy. I never EVER let anyone get anything from me without paying fairly. No matter how much of a pain in the ass it is to dance in the corner away from them at 7am in the morning when all you want to do is sit down. In their laps, on the ground, anywhere. If they don't tip me I don't touch them, I don't masturbate, I don't do anything. And this is reflected on the private we have. He's drunk and I take advantage of him. "How much to touch yr feet darling?" 100 "How much to touch yr breasts?" "100" How much to touch yr feet and breasts in the corridor?" 100. By the time the fifteen minutes are up I've made 500 from him without him getting off, without him getting anything emotionally from me.

Last night, again, he is my cash pig to go overseas, to remind myself I have options. But I don't try and empty his pockets as soon as possible. I charge him 250 and wind him up with fantasies, "oh....I can imagine walking down an alley with you, barefoot, yr hand down my top. ooh...imagine us watching porn together in the cinema, everyone would know I'm yrs." He books me again..."ooh honey this porn is getting me excited, would you like me to suck yr cock? I can't do it out here though..." He books me again. We turn off the lights in the peeps room so I can't see his cock which he's embarrassed about. I roll it up and down between my toes and he cums and rubs his semen into my feet before sucking it off. I jerk him off again and he is deeply appreciative.

I've changed. I'm not embarrassed by his upfront need to do something I would be humiliated by. I know how to make things be ok with the exchange of money. I know how to protect myself. And it's good, I'm not so bitter anymore, we both leave each other glowing. And so he becomes my regular.

According to this incredible podcast from NPR, “Most of Japan’s more than 30,000 sushi restaurants still refuse to hire women, and many men refuse to eat sushi that a woman has prepared. Men often believe that women have a higher body temperature and other physiological differences that make them unsuitable to prepare something as delicate as sushi.”•


Sorry for just quoting and not getting the links and such, but I'm on my blackberry and its kind of a hassle.


Wondering how transmen's temp would fall into the mix.

in the continued theme of clothes for smaller dudes: socks

i hate trying to find dress socks for my size feet (7.5/8), because even if they say they fit those sizes, really they mean i can expect the heel of the sock to me somewhere around my ankle.

also, evidently a company called pantherella out of the UK makes a men's small sock.

My friend recently started a trans* and queer friendly personal training business and gym based in Melbourne (Australia) but has also developed an online personal training component so its also good for anyone overseas as well. I've been working with Lee over the last couple of months and its been amazing so i thought Id spread the word a bit.

this is the website: www.myspace.com/sunnygym

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A general invitation: If there is anyone out there who was at the TGEU conference in Berlin on May 2-4 and wants to share ideas/opinions/impressions, feel free to contact me through comments here or on my journal. I'm planning to put together some notes about what I got from the conference at some point (I went to workshops on advocacy and fundraising and was the other half of the workshop on transitioning in Russia) and post them on my journal, but in the meantime I would be happy to hear from anyone who was there. For those who wanted to attend but couldn't, the next conference will be in 2010, and we hope to see you there!

Hey folks, my name is Tony. First time poster, long time lurker. I'm pre-T, pre-OP and I'm turning twenty-one in November. I suck at introductions so I'll just post pictures and stfu. And I apologize for this being extremely image intense!

( Ahoy yee maties. )

Thanks for your time guys!

 ( pre-t ) ( 8 months )

i don't really see any difference. what do you guys think?

I've got a few questions about surgery.

Question the first:
A friend of mine just recently enlightened me to the fact that his boyfriend had difficulty wiping his own (I'll keep it PG) behind.  It kind of makes sense, having to twist like that just after surgery.  Has anyone else here had that issue?  If so, how did you overcome it?
Question 2:
Experiences with after-anesthesia drowsiness?  Just curious of the ratio of who was sleepy after (like same day) and who was wide awake.

Question 3:
After the postings about the nasty vest, how would I go about getting a second post-surgical vest size-wise?  I know what size to order for a binder, but that's taking my large chest into consideration.  (I haven't looked recently, but I will right now) but does Underworks have a sizing chart?



As always,
Thanks

Hey guys
so im having a DI surgery with fischer on tuesday and ive been searching tags and such and i realized that i do not have a vest to wear post surgery. any advice on where i can get one? would a medical supply type store carry them? or if fischer('s) staff can refer me to someplace down there.

thanks!

Had a peri with Fischer on the 22nd of April, and I'm now taking the bandages off.

Question: What is the best way to take this nipple tape off?

I got the foam off, but now thats its time to peel back the tape and steri-strips, I'm scared out of my mind. The office told me to do it in the shower and hold down the skin in the wake of the peeled tape, which makes sense. They said this minimizes the risk of "loosening the flap", a phrase that made me so nauseous that I could not continue to remove stuff.

Also: Did any of you re-nipple bandage before throwing that vest back on? This thing would be chafe-y under normal circumstances, and I can't imagine what it'll be like in the event that I ever get the tape/steristrips off.

Any advice welcome. Thanks.

I called Dr. Stefanides in Nashville and apparently he doesn't do surgeries for ftms anymore, so now I must ask - does anyone know of any surgeons in the southeast US area that will take payments? (for top surgery)

ok....i have another appt (yeah, yeah, fuck yeah!!) for my top surgery consultation on may 19.....i have been in battle with the last one for a couple of months now....im done with dr davis...moving on...they are great if you walk in with your own money...its done and its clean....but if you want their help to back you up with your insurance co who clearly have coverage position articles stating they will cover the gender reassignment surgery...forget it....they just dont want to deal with the insurance portion of it...period....fine...i will find a dr who is willing to stand by my side...regardless...and we may have found one...and if not...i wont quit until i accomplish this goal...i cannot live with my chest anymore...the more days that pass while im on t, it gets harder and harder to deal with....im sure others in the community feel the same way.....